Microsoft is hosting an Xbox One Sports Star Challenge this weekend and so they have asked me to host a giveaway here.
WHAT: Xbox One Sports Star Challenge
WHERE: City Creek Center
WHEN: Saturday, November 23, from 1 – 4 p.m.
Description: Microsoft’s City Creek Center retail store is proud to host the Xbox One Sports Star Challenge. We want to see if anyone in Salt Lake City has what it takes to beat former Utah Jazz player and NBA All-star Mark Eaton at his own game— on the new X-Box One. Guests can also meet Eaton for photos and autographs. Prizes will be awarded during this family-friendly event.
You can enter here through Saturday and your gift card will be mailed directly to you from Microsoft.
Yes, I am a nerd and really want to be down at the City Creek Center Challenge!!
I have not been feeling great over the past week, being down with a cold and junk from the change in the weather. So, when I got my package from Novica, which was processed super speedy and delivered without a hiccup, I was thrilled and it was actually the medicine I needed. A few weeks ago, I mentioned that I had the opportunity to "purchase" something from Novica, and that they are associated with National Geographic to promote artisans from across the globe. These artisans create the most unique and beautiful items and are super talented!
I spent so much time online while trying to figure out what to use my online coupon for. Shopping online is great medicine! I was caught in a blissful state of imagining what these beautiful things would look like on me. I was truly surprised.
When I finally figured out what I was going to order, my dragonfly earrings from Bali, the ordering was so incredibly easy! Additionally, using the coupon code was a breeze! The site is fully secure and efficient. After I ordered, I smiled and waited.
Take a look at this beautiful packaging!
Of course, this beautiful bag first came in a plain brown box. However, when I opened thisNovica item, I found this beautiful drawstring bag with a Novica metal tag attached. Inside this bag came the story of the artisan and the piece(s) that I ordered. Also included was a postcard from where the item's artisan was from, along with a note on it from the artisan.
Here are two pictures that show how beautiful these earrings are. So lovely!
Here is what it says about my artisan from Novica.
"I love to create something from many kinds of materials. God gave us a lot of things that are already amazing to make into nice jewelry." ~Komang Wijayana
What about the dragonfly? Why did I choose this dragonfly? Here is what the Novica package tag states about the dragonfly.
Flitting through the Balinese sky, dragonflies take different poses on their gossamer wings. Komang Wijayana creates these enchanting earrings of sterling silver. Faceted blue topaz centers the magical creatures.
Can you tell that I am loving them?
I am giving away a coupon code worth $37.50 dollars on Novica. It's an easy thing to giveaway because anyone who purchases any of the lovely and unique items from Novica will be truly amaze at what they get!
Halloween is finally over and the decorations are down. However, the candy is still there and I now have the challenge of working off the same amount of calories that I am taking in. I'm thinking of giving away candy as a secret candy fairy around my neighborhood. Ha Ha Ha. ...no...really. I have to get it out of my house!
I have now put up my Thanksgiving decorations and that is unbelievable to me. Thanksgiving already?!!! Can't believe how fast time is flying by!!
My children are both so busy and turning into such awesome young men!! How have we done that??! I believe it's all to do with my hubby. He is amazing!
Well, as you may know, my children struggle a bit with a few things. Anxiety. Asperger's. Etc. Here is more helpful information for you regarding these struggles that my help you.
Mindfulness Strategies to Promote Focus
1. Develop attention anchors. Having a tangible way to bring your mind back to the present can help you stay on task. Taking a few deep breaths, clapping your hands or spending a minute pacing can all serve as ways to re-anchor yourself in the present. Rather than trying to stop your attention from drifting, give yourself permission to wander off any time, enjoy a short diversion, and then use your anchor to bring yourself back to the present before the distraction derails you from your task.
2. Be aware of your needs. Stepping back and reframing a problem can help us get a fresh look at difficult issues. Often those with ADHD need to change the way they are approaching a challenging task. For example, if you have difficulty in understanding verbal instructions, ask for or use visual or written directions. If you find it hard to get back on task when interrupted, hang a do not disturb sign on your desk, cubicle or door. Identify your best working style and invite those around you to support it.
3. Pause before you act. A short time delay between the occurrence of an idea and acting on that thought can reduce impulsivity and hyperactivity by creating a mental buffer zone. People with ADHD tend to generate many ideas and have difficulty following through. They end up with many half-finished projects, bouncing from one idea to the next. By taking a short timeout, you will find that you become more discriminating about acting on your ideas, which makes you more likely to complete the things you do start.
Mindfulness Strategies That Capitalize on ADHD Traits
1. Take advantage of superfocus. People with ADHD have the ability to superfocus on activities that interest them. This ability can be an asset if you can harness it. When you find yourself in surperfocus mode, enjoy what you are doing to the fullest, but be sure to stop on a positive note. This can be hard, because we have a tendency to drive ourselves to exhaustion in this mode. Instead, try to stop when you are feeling good about yourself. Doing so creates a positive behavior pattern that is inherently rewarding and will increase your feelings of control while capitalizing on your asset.
2. Use your strengths as an entry point. We all have responsibilities, whether for work, school or family. It can be very hard for people with ADHD to initiate activities that they have little interest in or find difficult, like certain types of homework or chores. Using your strengths can help to make initiation less difficult. For example, if you are a visual thinker, begin a homework project by creating the visual aspects of a report first and then writing the background once you get “warmed up.” Or make a visual map of a project to help you organize your thoughts before you begin.
3. Use time to your advantage. Some people with ADHD work well in big chunks. Once they begin an activity, they are most productive if they can work for several hours uninterrupted. Others find that the pressure of a time limit helps them focus. For example, Elton John says that he never spends more than 40 minutes on composing a song because beyond that he gets bored. By knowing the limits of his attention, he can avoid the problems that arise from boredom, including distraction, poor productivity and a loss of creativity.
Being mindful does not necessarily mean that you will always be focused on the task at hand. Instead, it means that you are actively working to be aware of where your attention is and discovering ways to deliberately guide it to where you would like it to be. For individuals with ADHD, mindfulness can be a powerful strategy for engaging with the mind and getting to know ourselves better. Until we understand how we work best, it is impossible to begin developing strategies that work for us.
The above is only a part of an article. Here is the link for the full article. http://www.aspergerstestsite.com/1185/mindfulness_adhd/?utm_source=Aspergers+Test+Site+Information&utm_campaign=1a70f83181-Mindfulness_ADHD&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_176d94f2f3-1a70f83181-95853153#.UnfZrfmX-So
Now, here is some awesomeness that proves how wonderfully animals retain their loyalty to their owners. The companionship means so much on both sides. These reunions make me laugh and cry and just puts life into perspective, in that relationships last and they are meaningful. These are beautiful!
Even if you are not a dog person, there is so much to the pet and human relationship. Here's an example of this. This is a beautiful example of the relationship with an animal that saved the life of a soldier in Afghanistan and the lengths that the soldier's family was willing to go to in getting the cat to the soldier in Oregon. Just beautiful!
Life is beautiful. You just need to continue to look for the beauty instead of the bad and you will create a beautiful reality for yourself. I love it!
What are your Thanksgiving traditions?
It's really almost Halloween? Unbelievable! Where did time go?
While being the mom-taxi this week, going back-and-forth between schools, helping my children stay after school and to go in early. Why? It's the end-of-the term rush to retake tests, finish wood shop projects, finish film projects, finish AP Physics labs, and more. Oh my heck! My children are awesome that they care about their grades, so I don't mind being the mom-taxi. I'm just glad that my car's seats are not memory foam because my seat would have a permanent imprint of my fanny!
The leaves are almost all off of my trees and my grass has had the Fall fertilizer. I think that today I will mow my leaves up, instead of raking them. I know I'm not the only one that does that and that way, the leaves will be in tiny pieces that I can add to my flower beds, along with a top layer of dirt that I can take from my garden. I have taken out my marigolds, but left a ton of the seeds (which seem to come back better every year). I have trimmed back most of my bushes and other plants, but I don't take my plants out because, even when the plants are supposed to be annuals, they seem to come back each year.
I still need to finish taking the plants out of my garden and save the corn stalks for decorating after I take down my Halloween decorations, following that spooky holiday. I also need to spray for spiders because there are a ton of spooky, furry spiders this year. I don't want those little creatures in my house this Winter and don't want eggs to hatch in the Spring and Summer!
When do you all start and finish your holiday shopping? Do you participate in "Black Friday" shopping? Or, do you prefer to participate in the "Cyber Monday" shopping? Both? I am not fond of shopping in crowded spaces, so I prefer to take my time during the year to do my shopping and I seem to find better prices than those found on Black Friday or Cyber Monday by doing this, along with better cash flow.
I'm going to try a new site for some of my shopping. It seems to have some really beautiful items and really high quality. The site is Novica and they are associated with National Geographic and offer a ton of beautiful items from artists around the globe. I'll let you know how that goes. It's http://www.novica.com/. They have given me an incentive for trying them and I will host a giveaway when I give my review.
What else is on the docket? I think the question is more like "what isn't"?!! Holy canoli! It's like the amazing race to get things done before the weather changes! I pray and pray that the weather doesn't change...not just for this reason, but because I feel like hibernating during Winter. I wish I was a bear and could just sleep until the weather got better. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way!! I live in Utah where the snow means Winter recreation and a ton of money for my state. Maybe I should quit blubbering about the weather and get on board with the Winter recreation. Hmmm...how many layers can I get on without looking like I am the kid on Christmas Story?
Until next week, I am thrilled to be a part of this great neighborhood of parents! Luv yah!!
Who here is saying TGIF (Thank Goodness It's Friday)!? It's funny how we all look toward the weekend and then find that it is as busy, or more busy than the week was. What do you do on your weekend?
Since I'm a stay-at-home-mom, but work-at-home as a publicist, graphic designer, and consultant, I have a hard time letting my work go on the weekend. For one, I can't stop being a mom, even on vacation. There will always be laundry, dishes, family who needs assistance. As far as my work-at-home business, I feel like I am constantly checking my emails, constantly working on ideas, proposals, and etc. I know there are boundaries I need to make, but eek!!! That's the way it goes when you are trying to build a solid business. I like to lean on a quotation from Steve Jobs that applies to both of my jobs.
"Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you, and you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use." ~ Steve Jobs
I totally want to be a brand ambassador. Do you guys have any ideas of what brands would fit with my blog and my personality? I have applied to be one for a new launch of the X-Box coming up, but have not yet heard. That would be a blast! I would love to be one for hair product, supplements, beauty, tech, language learning products...oh my gosh...the whole gamut! What do you guys think?
I know this post has a bunch of kind of random stuff in it. It's just thoughts. We all have days when those thoughts are somewhat random and this just happens to be one of mine. LOL!
I leave you with this.
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”
― Ashley Smith
Well, I know it has been at least a few weeks since I last posted. I got the mother of all intestinal infections and had to get IV fluids, anti-nausea medicine, and etc. It has been 1 1/2 weeks and I still have the bug. Because of my Lyme disease, I am sure I will be blessed longer than the 7-14 days that the urgent care doctor said this could last. I am always blessed with so much more than others, LOL!
Time passes so fast!
My oldest, who is now 16 and a Junior in his school, has just taken the PSAT. This test helps kids obtain scholarships and shows how much they need to practice in order to get a good score on the ACT. All of these acronyms! I joke with my husband about using a full sentence with only acronyms and seeing if anyone can actually understand what I am saying.
My husband and I also joke about using words where the first letter is silent, like this...
Business caller: So you want what kind of glue?
Me (or my hubby): Tacky
Business caller: Can you please spell that for me?
Me (or my hubby): Sure. It's
"T" as in Tsunami
"A" as in Aisle
"C" as in Czar
"K" as in Knife
"Y" as in Yiperite
Here is a great list of words in which the first letter is silent.
Pretty geeky, but we love to be goofy around our house. We come up with these things while we are cooking or while we are having family dinner. I often wonder if my children are more mature than my husband and I are, LOL!
My 13 year old is finally getting his homework done without us having to use a cattle prod...not really using one, for those who might take things more literally. He is always a card, hilarious! My husband and I wish so badly that my little 13 year old would share his comedic talents with others! He is so dang hilarious and has absolutely great timing!!! He is so very shy, however. I was the same way at his age.
What do you and your partner talk about when you are cooking? Do you cook together? You should! It is a great time to work as a team and to have time that creates a stronger bond.
What do you and your family talk about during dinner? Do you have family dinner? Every night should be a family dinner night! It helps everyone to tell how their day went, discuss various topics of interest, and creates a strong bond around a table of food that's made with love.
As you can tell from this, I am showing my truly dorky mom character. My children often roll their eyes or shake their heads, but they always laugh and that makes our home a home that is happy, a home that is full of love and not of tension, a home that is full of laughter and not of arguing.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE my little family!
As I sit here, in front of the computer, blinds wide open to my backyard garden, I know the season of pleasant weather is nearing and end and that the days of cold and inversion are on their way. I go out and work in the garden to harvest my beautiful vegetables and come back in to work on the computer some more. I then go out to dead-head my flowers and come back in to work on the computer further. I am going to miss this routine of daily yard therapy and I think I am already going into the mourning process.
Each day I take my children to school, I realize how quickly time is passing. At parent-teacher conferences last week, my 16 year old had teachers talking about scholarships, being sure that his AP classes were in-line with his college of choice and what he was going to take to top things off next year, including taking some college classes during the summer and during next year to be sure that he had an Associates Degree that could fully be transferred. That cannot be possible! I was just holding this baby in my arms!
When taking my 8th grader to his parent-teacher conferences last week I was so impressed with this grown-up interaction with his teachers. He surprised me with his knowledge of what was going on in each class and his ability to articulate what he had accomplished and what he needed to do better on with this teachers and with me, as his parent. I cannot believe that this, my youngest child, is almost in 9th grade! Again, I was just holding this baby in my arms!
Do you parents feel the same way about your children and about how fast time passes?
I just want to stop time and play with my children. I want to take them to Disneyland again, but stay for two weeks. I want to take them to Disney World and let them play until they are worn out. I want to take them to the tropics so they can see through the clear-blue water to the bottom of the ocean. I want to take them to the Great Lakes to take Ferries across to the Islands to take tours of light houses. I want to take them to Manhattan, New York so that they can see the Statue of Liberty and the 9/11 memorial. I want to do so much more and enjoy all of these things with them before they or I get much older. Oh how I & my husband wish.
One thing is perfectly clear, however. My children are a huge blessing and are so amazing! My husband and I are in constant amazement that our children are so honest, demanding respectful behavior around them or they leave the situation. They let people know that they don't want them to swear around them. They let people know that they don't want them to use poor humor around them. All of these things and more. It takes guts to do this! I would have just pretended that these things were not going on around me. My kids just don't allow it...period! Amazing!
Yes, I am one proud mamma!
While you all may not know this, I have been blessed with Late-stage Lyme disease, only properly diagnosed in Fall of 2007. I've been riding a roller coaster of symptoms and treatments since that date, but not nearly as severe as prior to that diagnoses.
My family is such a blessing to me. I don't know how I was able to even get to this point with my family still together. Yes, here we are, and loving each other more deeply than ever before.
While I know this won't be that 'feel good' story all of the way through, there is important information here that I am divulging, leaving myself wide open to you who read my blog, and that I am informing you with so that you can arm your family against Lyme and know when there are symptoms that need to be checked. I am also divulging a back story that will increase your knowledge in how life stress can contribute to the onset of illness. Additionally, I won't likely go back through and read it for editing purposes because I might be tempted to take out a lot of the personal information and details.
This is kind of my story of the grief for a life never lived and hope in finding myself...
Here it goes...
Over the course of my teen years, my energy became drained, only to find out during my Junior Year in High School that I had mononucleosis. I often wonder who I kissed to deserve this, LOL! ...I laugh because I was so shy that I had likely barely had my first kiss, if that...so I guess it wasn't that memorable (either that, or I was traumatized and repressed it because I was so shy when it happened).
Again, in college, I was diagnosed with mononucleosis. However, I didn't have the luxury of coming home for help, as my father told me I wasn't a tax write off and couldn't return home to live. I did come home early, however, after recurring dreams that my mother needed my help because my parents were going to get a divorce. When I did go home, the papers were not yet served, but were taken care of the day of my arrival or just a couple after. I wasn't able to go back and finish my degree after that. Yep...back story...put you are going to get to know me better because I feel that being open can only help my readers...I would love to help you in my writing.
Yet again, following my parents divorce (throughout which I had an integral part in taking care of my younger siblings, helping my mother collect hoarded 'items' that my father had collected in one side of the house he was 'staying' in, continuing to receive threats and harassment from my father even following the final divorce) the mononucleosis returned and did so in a much more debilitating manner.
It kept coming back nearly every two years after the first episode, each of which was worst than the initial episode and each new diagnoses left doctors more surprised than the previous. I continued to fight for my health on my own for years and years.
Deep depression and anxiety were prominent, due to events prior, during and after my parents divorce. I felt like a lost soul because I had given myself to my siblings and to my mother (my whole life) as the devoted protector, nurturer and peacemaker (note: I wouldn't ever do anything different other than to continue on that path following my parent's divorce).
Because of the illnesses, loss of self, depression and anxiety, I knew I needed change in order to find myself and in order to reinvent myself. A company in my industry found me worthwhile enough to move me from Chicago to Las Vegas. Little did I know that I would be isolating myself further by moving into a city that was open 24/7 with people moving in and out on a regular basis...truly a city full of lost souls.
When I moved to Las Vegas from Chicago I had new life given me in finding who I was and finding healing, while at the same time feeling like I was alone more than ever before. I went on a search for myself by going hiking 3-4 times per week on the Red Rock mountains that were less than 20 minutes from my apartment. I would read Deepak Chopra on a regular basis, as well as other esteemed authors in the arena of positive energy and creation of your own reality.
Running on new self-awareness, I was able to stop the cycle that my parents created. I won't tell the complete back story on this one, except to say that there was much counseling, prayer, and sacrifice in doing so and that it was a road that was well worth the travel. The reward, which I continue in amazement of my deserving, is unconditional love from my husband and my two wonderful children. That cycle of positive energy is the new cycle that my husband and I are passing on to our children. My husband and I don't argue, laugh often and our family teases one another with love and good humor, cries together when we have challenges, and builds each other up through trials. Love.
Prior to having our second child, my husband and I worked together on my various health issues. I was mostly healthy, doing kick-boxing, step aerobics and weights consistently.
Once I was pregnant with our second child, my health deteriorated. After having him, my health completely went down hill. I was definitely rolling into the worst part of my health, not knowing it was Lyme. I was couch or bed bound most of the time. The symptoms migrated from one disease to another. Here is a short list of the various diseases I was diagnosed with. Keep in mind that I was also treated with drugs for each of these ailments and that the side-effects from those drugs have likely caused current symptoms and permanent damage. Also, keep in mind that most of these ailments have symptoms but no confirming tests, including M.S., for which the diagnoses was 'probable', based on brain lesions and negative spinal tap results. From this list you can imagine how much of a struggle my whole family went through and how blessed I am to have a husband who is my best friend and such a wonderfully nurturing father. Here is the short list...
-menstral irregularity and heavy cramping and bleeding
-Unexplained weight gain
-Unexplained weight loss
-Unexplained hair loss
-Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
-Facial paralysis-Bell's Palsy
-inflamed lymph nodes that caused me to have my appendix removed
-cysts on my ovaries causing me to be unable to conceive, even after medication
-cysts on my ovaries and continued issues caused me to have to have a hysterectomy
-Early Alzheimer's Disease
-probable Multiple Sclerosis
-inability to walk (spending family vacation to Disneyland in a wheelchair)
-Breathlessness, “air hunger”, unexplained chronic cough
-skin pain (nothing can brush against it, including the wind)
-Tingling, numbness, burning or stabbing sensations, shooting pains, skin -hypersensitivity
-probable Multiple Sclerosis
Being that I have had all of these and continue to have many of them (in symptom only), I would like to arm you with information that can help prevent you and your family from experiencing Lyme disease.
First, when going outside into your garden, hiking, or into any tall foliage, wear long pants with socks over the pants and long sleeves.
Second, check yourself and your family for ticks when you come inside.
Third, doing believe the people that say that Lyme isn't in your area. It is.
Fourth. be sure to watch for the "bulls-eye rash" that indicates you have just been bitten by a tick and need to seek immediate treatment.
Fifth, when being tested for Lyme, regardless if it is because of the rash or other symptoms listed above, use the IGeneX lab because it specializes in tick-born illnesses and will be the most accurate.
Sixth, don't believe that there is a vaccine for Lyme. They do not have such a vaccine yet.
Seventh, don't believe the numbers being given by the CDC. While in recent days the CDC has been raising the numbers of Lyme disease cases being reported and/or probable cases, they are saving face. The numbers they report will continue to rise until they are updated with the Lyme community, whose data shows that Lyme disease is a higher epidemic than HIV/AIDS.
Eighth, use compassion should one of your family members be diagnosed with Lyme disease or any other illness. Your loved ones will return that energy back to you ten fold because positive energy returns what is given in that way.
Ninth, Lyme disease saved my life. Receiving probable illness diagnoses, going from doctor to doctor to doctor is not a life. I did that for so many years and I could have been saved that if I had read a blog like this one that mentioned Lyme disease and where to have to labs sent to get the most accurate testing possible. I could have been saved much earlier. However, I learned a lot along this path so that I could pass it on to others. For that I am grateful.
Additionally, Lyme disease may be the cause for my children's issues, i.e., Asperger's/Autism. Tests and theories are ongoing regarding the transmission of Lyme while the fetus is in the womb or through breast feeding.
I am currently battling Shingles with a major flare-up of my worst Lyme symptoms, along with PTSD from my childhood/early adulthood in being the quiet one who worried about everyone else and still does that same thing. I constantly have dreams of saving my siblings, even though my youngest sibling is 33 years old.
I am constantly in search of a doctor who is willing to treat me and not take advantage of me having Lyme disease in Utah. Although the prospects of this have been null, there is hope with the new revelations from the CDC on the newest numbers on Lyme and other tick-born illnesses.
Here are some helpful links for you to prevent and seek treatment for Lyme disease.
Lyme disease prevention
Top Ten Tips for Prevention of Lyme
How to recognize Lyme
This is a post that I published in February. From the questions and feedback that I have received, based on my most recent post about my boys, I felt that it was imperative that I republish this post so that there is recent information about this topic.
It was disturbing to me to read that there is a push for euthanization of children with Autism in other countries, which is prompting a similar discussion of such an awful action here in the United States. That would have been my children. My children would have been treated like rabid animals and put to sleep. They wouldn't be giving me the blessings that they give. They wouldn't be taking advanced classes in school and going on to be leaders in groups and in our community. They wouldn't be here providing ideas for the future of our country. Where are these insane ideas coming from?!!!
I feel blessed to have the word "Aspie" in my home. Challenges are very present, yes. However, the blessings of working through those challenges and coming out of them with my beautiful children in MORE than wonderfully contributing places makes having these children become MORE than blessings...me feeling MORE than grateful...they are MORE than high functioning.
While they still have their challenges, we deal with most of those at home now, where my husband and I are team coaches. In fact, with me having Late-stage Lyme disease, my children are often times more parenting than I am...so I feel. What blessings my children and husband are to me!...so very thankful each and every day!!!!
Below this line is the republished post from February of this year. Thank you for reading. I am always able to help anyone who is in need of more information on this topic or who would like to know how we have worked with our children or how we came to the diagnoses.
I decided to include these articles about Asperger's Syndrome because I have a wonderful son who has this and, because of A LOT of parental work (all worth every ounce!) no one would ever guess that he has it. He is brilliant (in all ways, but so much intellectually). He is so very cuddly, loving, devoted/loyal, looks people in the eye, has a great sense of humor (partially because we laugh all the time around our house), is responsible and is in leadership positions in school, church, and scouts, and is just a plain out wonderful kid who will talk your ear off about every subject under the sun (but mostly those subjects he fixates on a certain times). He has always been in regular school, even though the district wanted him in an accelerated program (didn't have him go because he wouldn't be in his regular social group and needed those skills more). He thinks of others all of the time and has huge empathy for those who are suffering or sad in any way. I could go on and on. I am so very proud. Here you go...
I have Asperger's; I am just like you
By Michael Ryan, CNN
updated 5:40 AM EST, Thu December 20, 2012
ditor's note: Michael Ryan is an assignment producer who works on the CNN.com homepage.
(CNN) -- I am not an expert on Asperger's syndrome. But I am an expert on me, and I have Asperger's.
And attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. And a bit of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Having all three disorders together is not unusual, my doctor says.
Like you, I get angry sometimes. And, like you, I would never think of channeling that emotion into violence.
There is no direct connection between violence and autism. None. I don't break things. I don't hit my dogs. I keep a small Tupperware container in the house to catch insects so I can transport them safely outside before my cats or wife see them. I don't disparage hunters, but I could never kill another creature. I just don't have it in me.
For the most part, I am just like you, just a bit quirky. All right, a lot quirky.
I am pedantic. I usually have no expression on my face or in my speech. I cannot look you in the eye. (I've learned to look people in the mouth or nose.) I cannot have a conversation of more than a few words with you, but I can lecture you ad nauseam on U.S. atomic bomb tests, the Cleveland Browns, beagles, Japanese society.
When you speak to me and I look away intently, I am parsing your words and running through scenarios based on your request or statement in an effort to understand you. Please bear with me.
Because I still have a deathly fear of offending someone or talking about something way off-topic, I often hold my hand over my mouth in meetings to keep from speaking. Being called on to speak is sheer terror.
And those are just some of my oddities. Your child/partner/co-worker with Asperger's has some similar peculiarities. That's why kids with Asperger's get bullied.
I was lucky. I didn't get bullied in school because I wasn't diagnosed and therefore not labeled. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 50. And when the doctors asked what course of action I wanted, I said none. I had made it that far, so I'd like to continue working it out on my own.
In fact, until today, most of my co-workers and friends didn't know I had Asperger's. So "Aspies" can grow up to have families and be productive and contributing members of society.
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BY KITTY DUMAS
When you first meet Tom Inguanzo, you notice he is polite, yet reserved or maybe a little shy.
His movements and conversation are tentative, as if he is treading carefully. He is.
Inguanzo, 41, has Asperger’s Syndrome, a high-functioning form of autism. He says he is trying to compensate for a lack of social skills that have plagued him for most of his life. Despite an impressive intellect and a strong desire to be liked, failure to use the strategies he has learned since being diagnosed 10 years ago can lead to disastrous gaffes, excessive talking and quirks that set him apart from those around him. Other symptoms include anxiety, depression and difficulties with planning.
Intensive communications therapy and psychotherapy have helped. Inguanzo now has friends, a modest social life and has returned to college. He is an accounting major at Florida International University, and speaks at schools to children with the disorder. Inguanzo, who lived on his own in Michigan for about five years, lives at home with his parents Yolanda and Tomas.
“I’m not where I want to be,” he says, “but I’m much better than I was.”
If you don’t have Asperger’s Syndrome or you’re not one of the estimated millions of Americans who have a child, a spouse, or a friend with a form of autism, chances are your introduction to the condition may have been through television shows, movies or news and social media. Temple Grandin, named one of Time Magazine’s 100 most influential People of the Year in 2010 and subject of an HBO movie, has written about the challenges of having it, along with Tim Page, the Pulitzer Prize- winning music critic for The Washington Post.
Last month, media around the country reported that Adam Lanza, the 20-year-old who shot and killed 20 first graders and six adults in Newtown, Ct., before killing himself, may have had Asperger’s. Experts and advocates say that reports about Lanza added confusion to an already murky public understanding of autism and mental health issues in general, and unfairly stigmatized autistic people, who are far more likely to be victims of violence.
Greater understanding is critical, they say, given the statistics. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that one in 88 children and one in 54 boys in America have some form of autism. There are no estimates of how many of those with autism have Asperger’s.
“This is a group that really suffers in a lot of ways,” says Dr. Diane Adreon, associate director of the Center for Autism Related Disorders (CARD) at the University of Miami School of Medicine. “As they get older, they’re often aware of the fact that they’re struggling to fit in. Sometimes they act like they don’t care when really it’s hard to persist at something that you’re not meeting success with. They’re often the targets of bullies. They may go through the school day without causing trouble for anybody, but it doesn’t mean that their social isolation isn’t really setting them up. This population is at an increased risk for anxiety and depression, and it’s a serious condition,” said Adreon, co-author with Brenda Smith-Myles of the book, Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence: Practical Solutions for School Success.
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Asperger’s Disorder to get new designation
by Laura Edington
Richmond County Daily Journal
Asperger’s Disorder is being put in the spotlight once more because of a change in the syndrome’s designation.
According to a press release sent by the FirstHealth of the Carolina’s, Asperger’s Disorder is a lifelong condition that can stabilize over time.
According to the Centers for Disease Control, Asperger’s symptoms are: having trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about their own feelings, having a hard time understanding body language, avoiding eye contact, wanting to be alone, or wanting to interact, but not know how, having narrow, sometimes obsessive, interests, talking only about themselves and their interests, speaking in unusual ways or with an odd tone of voice, having a hard time making friends, seeming nervous in large social groups, clumsiness or awkwardness, having rituals that they refuse to change, such as a very rigid bedtime routine, developing odd or repetitive movements, and having unusual sensory reactions.
Asperger’s Disorder was first discovered in the 1940s by Viennese pediatrician Hans Asperger, according to the Autism Society. He observed autistic-like behaviors and difficulties with social and communication skills in boys who had normal intelligence and language development. Many professionals felt Asperger’s Disorder was simply a milder form of autism and used the term “high-functioning autism” to describe these individuals.
The differences between Asperger’s Disorder and Autism are the less severe symptoms and the absence of language delays that are associated with Asperger’s Disorder.
“They don’t pick up on subtleties of communication,” said David Ruck, M.D and a board certified psychiatrist with FirstHealth of the Carolinas.
He said, “They don’t understand jokes and puns.”
Ruck is affiliated with both the Moore Regional Hospital and Richmond Memorial Hospital in Rockingham, according to Emily Sloan, Assistant Director of Public Relations for FirstHealth of the Carolinas.
Despite these differences between the two, with the May 2013 publication of the American Psychiatric Association’s DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition), Asperger’s syndrome will lose its designation as an independent diagnosis and take a place on the autism spectrum. Because of the change, many parents are concerned that their child will lose access to critical educational and treatment opportunities.
Asperger’s syndrome, said Ruck, is a complicated condition that can have many symptoms and involve numerous treatment approaches. And, he points out, contrary to the fears of some parents of Asperger’s children, its imminent autism grouping shouldn’t have any effect on access to available services.
“It’s going to make diagnostic clarity,” he said of the change.
Created by the American Psychiatric Association, the DSM is a common-language guide of mental health disorders that outlines causes and related information as well as some research on treatment options. Many mental health professionals use the manual to determine and help communicate a diagnosis after an evaluation, and American hospitals, clinics and insurance companies generally require a five-level (axis) DSM diagnosis.
Under the current DSM-IV manual, children can be diagnosed either as having autistic disorder, Asperger’s syndrome or PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder — Not Otherwise Specified). In the new manual, however, all three disorders will fall under the umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorder.
Ruck agrees with mental health professionals and advocates who expect the change in status will be a positive one that could actually lead to an increase in services by clearing up ambiguities in diagnosis and treatment.
“It’s not expected to make a significant difference in educational services,” Ruck said. “It’s going to tighten up the criteria and get everybody reading off the same sheet of music.”
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Asperger's syndrome, also called Asperger's disorder, is a type of pervasive developmental disorder (PDD). PDDs are a group of conditions that involve delays in the development of many basic skills, most notably the ability to socialize with others, to communicate, and to use imagination.
Although Asperger's syndrome is similar in some ways to autism -- another, more severe type of PDD -- there are some important differences. Children with Asperger's syndrome typically function better than do those with autism. In addition, children with Asperger's syndrome generally have normal intelligence and near-normal language development, although they may develop problems communicating as they get older.
Asperger's syndrome was named for the Austrian doctor, Hans Asperger, who first described the disorder in 1944. However, Asperger's syndrome was not recognized as a unique disorder until much later.
What Are the Symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome?The symptoms of Asperger's syndrome vary and can range from mild to severe. Common symptoms include:
How Common Is Asperger's Syndrome?Asperger's syndrome has only recently been recognized as a unique disorder. For that reason, the exact number of people with the disorder is unknown, although it is more common than autism. Estimates suggest Asperger's syndrome affects from 2 to 6 out of every 1,000 children. It is more common in males than in females, and usually is first diagnosed in children between the ages of 2 and 6 years.
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